Stop reliving your past mistakes. Instead, impower yourself with what you have learned and move forward. Most important: Believe in Yourself! The Universe does. You are special and unique💜
There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called Yesterday and the other is called Tomorrow, so Today is the right day to Love, Believe and most of all, Live! ~Dalai Lama
Taking time out, or as I like to call it hiding from the world, is essential for your well-being—especially your mental health. Today we’re getting so much information overload that’s right up front, in our faces, it can make your mind explode.
If you remember the movie, The Shining with Jack Nicholson, he constantly types, “All work and no play make’s Jack a very dull boy.” Guess what? It not only makes him a very dull boy, but all work and no play can contribute to anxiety, depression, lessen the immune system, just to name a few things . . . or like Jack, you’ll go crazy!
If you don’t give yourself time out, your irritability increases, your concentration decreases, you become more frustrated—oy vey! I could go on forever! Bottom-line, just like you need sleep, you need “Me” time, or timeout, whatever you want to call it. Just take it!
Taking time out is not selfish, it’s being smart. By doing it on a regular basis you not only reduce your stress levels, but you find yourself happier. As my Grandmother would always say, “You need time to recharge your batteries so you’ll function better.”
This “Me” time can be going for a walk, doing some kind of exercise or just reading a book alone in a little corner. My favorite—writing in my journal.
Any of these “Me” times gives you a chance to let go of any tensions, from anyone or anything. You’ll become re-energized, relaxed, calmer. You’ll think more clearly, make wiser decisions and you get less frustrated at someone or something. It reduces your irritability levels, so when a spouse or child or friend gets under your skin, you’ll react differently. You’ll find yourself handling things in a more positive way, which is so good not just for you but for everyone around you. It makes your whole environment happier.
So many people have this fear of missing out, that if we don’t check our emails or go on all the different social media platforms, we will somehow lose out or miss out. Really? Ask yourself—what is out there that is so important it can’t wait for a few hours or even a day or two?
I realize we have our jobs and family obligations, but one thing I’ve learned with this pandemic is that it’s important to take time out for yourself—that most things we feel we need to do can wait.
By giving yourself "Me" time, you build your self-esteem and you slowly come to see how important it is to have time for yourself. You not only deserve it, it’s essential for your well-being! Remember, if you're burnt out, you’re no good for anyone. Your job performance goes down, your desire to do things basically drops to nothing, it’s just a no-win situation.
There’s an article I love from the July 2000 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine, by Katrina Kenison, called Why you must have time alone. In it, Katrina tells a story about a friend who went through a difficult time. She had medical problems and her doctor was all for going through tests, but recommended that she first take time out for herself alone. She did, and in the process she found out what was really bothering her and her medical problems started to go away. “Solitude can cure what ails you.”
If you’d like to read the whole article, here's the link: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/why-you-must-have-solitude-and-time-for-yourself/all I think it's worth reading.
Katrina says something which I feel is very wise. “In solitude we discover what makes us feel alive. We can use our time alone to rest, in a complete and profound way, or we can engage in an activity that brings us joy. What a pleasure it is to dive into a project with no distractions, or to pursue our passions at full tilt.”
So, take quiet time out for yourself!
My suggestion, write in your journal while you have a nice cup of coffee or a glass of wine, or whatever you fancy, and spoil yourself with “Me” time. Make it a habit—once a week or twice a week, or everyday! But never let a week go by without taking “Me” time! Doctor’s Order . . . or at least my order to you!
And always keep Dreaming, Believing, Creating!
Remember when we went to work and on Friday’s we’d say, "Woohoo!" And we could look forward to a work-free weekend and do whatever we wanted.
Boy, have things changed!
Here are some helpful hints to keep your sanity while working at home.
Since work for a lot of us is at home, we have to really learn how to separate our work space from our home space. This isn’t an easy task. And anyone with children, you really have a lot to handle—work, school, housework—all at home! My hat’s off to you!
To start, you need to set up a schedule.
In Harvard Business Review, Carolyn O'Hara wrote an article about 5 Ways to Work from Home More Effectively. She quotes Ned Hallowell, author of Driven to Distraction at Work. “Without supervision, even the most conscientious of us can slack off. Setting a schedule not only provides structure to the day, it also helps you stay motivated. Start the day as you would if you worked in an office: Get up early, get dressed, and try to avoid online distractions once you sit down to work.”
This might take time adjusting to your new schedule. Make sure it’s realistic. I know what Hallowell says is so true. When I first starting working at home, many years before the coronavirus pandemic, I found that I really needed to set up a schedule, stick to it and dress the part. Even if it was going from my bedroom to a room right next to my bedroom.
Another suggestion is to set clear boundaries.
This most likely will also take time to adjust to. When you’re home it’s easy to blur your home life into your work life. As Hallowell points out, “Unless you are careful to maintain boundaries, you may start to feel you’re always at work and lose a place to come home to.” One gal took a closet and made it into her very own tiny office, so when she’s done for the day, she can just shut the door and shut it off. Brilliant!
If the doorbell rings, try to ignore it, unless you’re expecting someone or something.
During your business hours have a separate ring tone on your phone for business, family members and friends. This stops you from answering unnecessary phone calls.
Also, take breaks like you would do if you were at work. Don’t isolate yourself from friends and work colleagues and don’t forget to schedule priority time with your family.
Another good tip from O’Hara: “Sunday night after everyone is in bed, map out your week.”
I think the best way is by writing in a journal; at least that’s what I do. I personally love blank journals because I can put whatever I want in any order and not have to follow any format.
One last very important tip I have for you . . . in the morning or wee hours of the night, take your journal and just write whatever you’re experiencing. Put it all down, hold nothing back. Releasing all the emotions will help reduce any stress, anxieties, fears, and help unravel problems.
Ciao! May the Force Be With You!
Never stop Dreaming, Believing, Creating!
Do you find yourself getting frustrated and anxious more than usual? I know I do. In all honesty, it's to be expected. We’re living in a confusing and upsetting time. So . . . take a long, deep, breath and try these tips.
1. Laugh. Think of anything, or find anything, that will make you laugh and I mean really laugh. Laugh till your belly hurts. Studies show that laughter releases endorphins which are natural chemicals in the body that relieve stress and pain. They’re compared to opioids which are prescribed to relieve pain. Just think! You have this wonderful natural drug in your body that will make you feel so much better—so laugh!
2. Help someone. Science has found that when you help others it makes you feel happy. For centuries, the greatest thinkers have suggested that happiness is found in helping others—whether it be doing something for them or just lending an ear. This act of kindness may just be the secret to not only a happier life, but a healthier one.
3. Exercise. It can be just going outside for a walk. One good thing about walking, it’s free! No matter what, just get yourself moving! Get out and soak in Mother Nature's beauty. This might sound silly, but just being around flowers, trees, looking up at the sky, clouds, calms you. Exercise also releases the endorphins—remember those wonderful little chemicals in your body that make you happy! Get them moving throughout your body to feel better.
4. Write in your journal. When you write, you release—yes, you guessed it—the endorphins in your brain! Nothing can end up being more empowering for you than to let out your emotions. You don’t want to direct negative emotions at others, but you need to release them. And the safest way is to write them down! Don’t keep your feelings buried inside you. That can cause all kinds of illness and stress and fester anger and frustration. Let those feelings out — privately in your journal where they are safe. You will feel lighter, freer, happier and empowered.
So, make this your mantra: write, release; write, release. Go here if you need a journal to write, release.
You’ll find so many wonderful, different things will happen to you when you write, release.
My wish to you . . . may you never stop dreaming, believing and creating,
Life is a mystery. But what you do leads you to where you want to go and then the mystery will slowly begin to unravel.
If you take a moment every day when it's most peaceful and quiet for you (I prefer early in the mornings because my mind hasn’t been cluttered by the day’s events), write down what you’re doing with your life, and I mean put down everything—relationships, work, family, friends, plans for the future—you’ll slowly start to see a pattern of where you really want to go or what you feel you need to work on.
Mind you, this might take a while; it just depends on how deep you want go. My advice, the deeper you explore the better. By doing this you’ll discover where you want to be in your life and what direction you want to take.
Remember, be brutally honest with yourself. This is Your Life!
"Journal therapy is all about using personal material as a way of documenting an experience, and learning more about yourself in the process," Kathleen Adams, a psychotherapist and author of Journal to the Self, told the Huffington Post. "It lets us say what's on our minds and helps us get — and stay — healthy through listening to our inner desires and needs."
I discovered that life works best when you live it the way you want and love, truly love, yourself. I have found that by writing down whatever is bugging me or on my mind, a pattern and/or solution(s) slowly starts to fall into place. The best part, I’m slowly unraveling the mystery of my life!
So, get out your journal and start writing. Click here to get one!
Never stop Dreaming, Believing, and Creating,
Because it’s a place to express all your feelings and release them without fear, embarrassment or judgment.
It's your very own secret world that's just
between you and the universe.
Notice how many articles and books are out there about what you can do to become successful, or, "I have the perfect solution for you to achieve success."
Honestly, is there any full proof answer? I think not.
What I do know is that whatever you do to achieve success, the hardest part is taking that first step and there is a very uncomplicated way to begin.
Write it down — seriously, write it down.
The act of putting it on paper makes it real. All great ideas start by writing them down. Scientists have proven that when someone writes down what they want and how they want to get it, they have a better success rate than the ones that don’t.
Did you know that Leonardo da Vinci, considered one of the greatest painters of all time, was a big fan of journaling? He wrote down any thoughts that crossed his mind, from doodles to notes, to drawings, to affirmations that kept him motivated. He even liked writing down jokes!
Thomas Edison who invented the light bulb said, "I haven't failed—I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." And how do you think he did this? He was constantly scribbling down his thoughts, ideas and inventions on pieces of paper, notebooks, anything he could write on.
Anne Frank kept a diary (which basically is a type of journal) she had received as a birthday present and wrote in it regularly. It ended up helping her keep her sanity while being trapped in a four hundred square foot room with her family for two years.
What I’m trying to explain is that when you write down your thoughts, ideas, goals, wishes, anything, it begins a process of making it real—bringing it to life. You can think all you like, but until you formalize it and write it down, it stays a thought.
An artist can visualize a drawing in their mind, but until they start sketching it on a piece of paper, it’s basically just a vision in their head. An inventor can think of all kinds of inventions, but until they put in down on paper, it’s just a thought.
Books would never be written until the author puts their words down on paper. A dress designer would never design a dress until they did a sketch of it on paper. A house would never be built until the architect did a blueprint first.
I could go on and on with examples of how important it is to write it down, but I think you’ve gotten the idea of what I’m trying to convey.
In Marie Forleo’s book, Everything Is Figureoutable, she states: “Studies show that writing notes by hand helps you learn, understand, and retain new information more effectively than typing. More than that though, writing by hand forces your brain to slow down and allows you to express your ideas and feelings more clearly and deeply.”
It’s all so simple and basic. Write it down. It’s your world. Write your steps, and the path you want to take will appear.