Consider this . . . certain words should be removed from our vocabulary because they hold us back from doing things—words like but; maybe; can I? These are limiting words and words are powerful. They affect our thoughts, how we act, and how we see ourselves.
Whenever you say something, it leaves an imprint in your brain that triggers your thoughts; your feelings and beliefs.
Everything starts with a dream, or a thought, that develops into an idea. What starts to bring these ideas into fruition—words.
When you say, “Can I?” – you’re questioning your ability.
“But” is one of the biggest excuse words around. Think about it. What normally follows out of your mouth or thoughts when you use the word “but”? Excuses!
“Maybe” is procrastinating! It gives you a reason to put something off, and off, and off.
All these words downplay your thoughts about yourself and your abilities. They’re negative and are escape routes that deplete your success.
So, be careful with your words. They do affect you. If you find yourself starting to say these words, CANCEL them immediately from your vocabulary, you’ll be so much better off.
Did you know Frances Perkins was the first woman to serve on the U.S. Cabinet and was U.S. Secretary of Labor from 1933 to 1945? She also developed and implemented the policy for social security in 1935. Can you believe this, after she got married the only way to keep her maiden name was to go to court and fight for it! How times have changed because of women like her.
On March 15, 1911, Perkins witnessed the Triangle Shirtwaist Factory fire in Greenwich Village of Manhattan, New York. It was the deadliest industrial disaster in the history of the city: 146 garment workers (123 women, girls and 23 men) died from the fire, smoke inhalation and falling/jumping to their deaths.
Because of this fire, Perkins left her position at the New York office of the National Consumers League and became the executive secretary for the committee on safety of the City of New York. With this position she got New York to pass a “54-hour” bill capping the number of hours women and children could work.
When Governor Al Smith of New York in 1919, added her to the Industrial Commission of the State of New York, he said Perkins was someone who could be a voice for women and girls in the workforce. Unfortunately, the union leader didn’t agree with him. They distrusted her and her nomination was met with protest from both manufacturers and labor because they felt she didn’t represent their interest. The ironic part is she constantly fought for the workers/labor unions.
Her delay in being confirmed wasn’t due to her being a woman, it was because Perkins didn't take her husband’s name and to some senators it was a sign that she was a radical.
In 1933, when President Roosevelt asked Perkins to join his cabinet, she presented him with a long list of labor programs, from Social Security to minimum wages, that she told him she would fight for and said, "Nothing like this has ever been done in the United States before, you know that, don’t you?" He said yes, and also told her he would back her. He then went on to nominate her as Secretary of Labor.
Frances Perkins (born April 10, 1880 - died May 14, 1965) changed the work force as America knew it and made leaps for women in politics.
Secretary of Labor Perkins on the cover of Time (August 14, 1933)
The word for this week is: Dream. Everything starts with a dream. It’s the seed that forms a thought into reality. Remember Walt Disney: “If you can dream it, you can do it.” He created a fantasy place for people to have fun. The airplane started with the Wright brothers wanting to fly in the sky like a bird. Never stop dreaming!
Dreams start the process of forming ideas into reality.
So many things have happened because someone dreamt it first.
Alexander Graham Bell’s invention of the telephone started with a dream to help his mother’s gradual deafness.
When Henry Ford witnessed the operation of a Nichols and Shepard road engine, "...the first vehicle other than horse-drawn that I had ever see", he dreamt of an automobile that would run without steam or electricity.
In 1845 Sarah Mather dreamt of seeing underwater and invented the “submarine telescope”, an apparatus with a lamp that was attached to a tube, which was then sunk under water. It was used not by underwater vessels, but by people above water attempting to see into the depths to investigate wrecks, damaged ship hulls, and enemy activity during the Civil War.
Wikipedia defines a dream as: “a succession of images, ideas, emotions, and sensations that usually occur involuntarily in the mind during certain stages of sleep. The content and function of dreams are not fully understood, although they have been a topic of scientific, philosophical and religious interest throughout recorded history".
Sir Edmund Percival Hillary dreamt of climbing Mount Everest after he made his first major climb in 1939. On 29 May 1953, Hillary and Sherpa mountaineer Tenzing Norgay became the first climbers confirmed to have reached the summit of Mount Everest and it all started with a dream.
So, Never Stop Dreaming! You never know what lies ahead and what mysteries you'll discover!
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Word for the week – Failure – should be removed from our vocabulary. There is no such thing as failure. “Failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.” ~Arianna Huffington Remember this: You never fail. They are mistakes and learned lessons and you discovered what not to do.
Look at failure this way: “The one who falls and gets up is stronger than the one who never tried. Do not fear failure but rather fear not trying.” ~Paulo Coelho
Here’s how I see Failure:
First you try
And then you try again
Instead of giving up, you try again
Learn a different way to accomplish your goal
Understand you need to kept trying
Remind yourself you will succeed
Everything finally falls into place!
Take one of these quotes below and pin them on your wall, your bathroom mirror, your work station, any place that you can easily see them so you will never give in to failure.
“Failure is the only opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” ~Henry Ford
“Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.” ~F. Scott Fitzgerald
“Those who dare to fail miserably can achieve greatly.” ~John F. Kennedy
And last, but not least . . .
“You are not a failure and you need to quit telling yourself that you could have avoided failing because no successful person ever avoids the pain in hopes for the gain.” ~Unknown
So, dear reader, never give up and never feel like you’re a failure because you’re not! You are a person who will persevere!
Painting: Casper David Friedrich
The word for this week is Different. Everyone is unique and different - that’s what makes a person beautiful. If everyone was the same, we’d live in a very boring, drab world and nothing would be invented or created.
Differences is what makes our world unique. “In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different.” ~ Coco Chanel
Your true beauty lies in the quirky flaws you have. The more unique you are, the more you will shine. Mother Nature makes all different kinds of flowers, birds and animals. Why? Because if everything looked the same, where would the beauty be?
“Strength lies in difference, not in similarities.” ~Stephen Covey
I couldn’t agree more with him. It takes a strong person to acknowledge their difference and to be different. To not let someone shame, or belittle, or make fun of them because they are different.
As Audre Lorde said, “It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences.”
Our history books are filled with unique, different people – Einstein, Shakespeare, Barack Obama, Katherine Hepburn, Michelangelo, Lady Gaga, Madonna, the Wright Brothers, Muhammad Ali, Gandhi, Dr. Martin Luther King, to name just a few. Each one of these people believed in themselves, or an idea, that others didn’t. That alone made them different, but they didn’t let that stop them.
So, don’t let being different stop you from being who you are or doing something you believe in.
The word for this week is Hope. And I couldn’t say it better than this: “Everything that is done in the world is done by hope.” Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Think about that . . . we live each day with hope—hope for peace; hope we get our dream job; hope in finding our perfect mate; hope that our health will be good—we do everything by the beautiful strings of hope.
With hope we can face life with a positive attitude – a feeling, expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen in a promising way.
Wikipedia states, “Hope is an optimistic state of mind that is based on an expectation of positive outcomes with respect to events and circumstances in one's life or the world at large. As a verb, its definitions include: "expect with confidence" and "to cherish a desire with anticipation."
Hope is the inner flame within us that gives us strength to care on no matter what is happening. As human rights activist Desmond Tutu said, “Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.”
If you go back to the origin of the word ‘hope’, it came from the Greek word elpis – to anticipate, usually with pleasure. Elpis refers to the future and the unseen with positive anticipation. From the Old English, hope comes from the word hopian, referring to a positive expectation or to the theological virtue of hope.
Bottom-line, hope is a feeling, a desire, a wish, that keeps us moving forward. We really can’t put a definition on hope because it’s not tangible – we can’t touch it, or see it, or smell it, or taste it; we can only feel it in our mind and in our heart.
“Hope sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible.” ~Helen Keller
Image from Ravenous Butterflies
The word for this week is Courage. There are all kinds of courage. There’s moral, physical, social, emotional, spiritual, and each one is a challenge. So, how do we manifest courage? With confidence, strength and truth to self.
“The stories of past courage…can teach, they can offer hope, they can provide inspiration. But they cannot supply courage itself. For this each man must look into his own soul.” ~John F. Kennedy
I don’t know who said this, but it’s so true: courage is not the absence of fear. Courageous people do feel fear, but they are able to manage and overcome their fear so that it does not stop them taking action. They often use the fear to ensure that they are not overly confident and that they take the appropriate actions.
Courage is not always easy to maintain because sometimes you’re put in a difficult situation of getting hurt—emotionally or physically. If you don’t stand up to what is right, in the long run it will eat away at you and destroy any good feelings you have about yourself. And yes, you might get burnt, but you will walk away feeling very proud and become a stronger person.
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” ~Nelson Mandela
John F. Kennedy - Official Portrait
The word for this week is Confidence. With a New Year beginning, confidence is a must.
“With confidence, you have won before you have started.” ~ Marcus Garvey
Confidence is the most powerful tool you can have as you go through life. Guaranteed you will fall down, mess up, make mistakes, but if you keep this in mind, I think it will help: Confidence is remembering what you think is a failure is a lesson learned. So, just dust yourself off and keep on going!
“Confidence comes not from always being right, but from not fearing to be wrong.” ~Peter T. McIntyre.
Remember, you’ve human, you’ll flounder—so what?! That’s how you learn as long as you keep your confidence up and running with gusto. Your confidence may start as a small spark inside you, but the more you reassure yourself that you can do this, not worry about what others are thinking of you, or compare yourself to others, the spark will grow into an all-consuming flame and fuel you forward to accomplish whatever you desire.
I like this: “A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms.” ~Zen Shin.
Psychology Today states that, “Confidence is a belief in oneself, the conviction that one has the ability to meet life's challenges and to succeed—and the willingness to act accordingly.”
Bottom-line, keep these thoughts in mind and your confidence will stay strong: believe in yourself; know you can do this; don’t let other people tell you otherwise; realize life will throw you curve balls—nothing ever goes smoothly; there’s always a surprise. Your life is not a movie, it’s real.
You were born to be real, not to be perfect.
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The word for this week is Goal. A goal gives us a purpose for living, motivates us, and when accomplished, we’re so happy we want to shout from a rooftop, “I did it!” No matter how big or small, it’s exhilarating.
A goal is a precious gift we give to ourselves.
Think of it like a seed for a flower that you plant in a garden; your goal is a spiritual seed of a particular desire that you plant in your mind. But like anything worth working for, it takes energy and time. What do you do to keep a goal alive with excitement while you work to accomplish it? Here’s a few steps that might help.
First, plant your goal in your mind. Next, map out how you want to accomplish it—the designing period. Then guesstimate how long it’ll take. Now comes the hard part—doing it. That’s the kicker!
So how do you keep the enthusiasm alive?
· Most important: you accept, know, and realize there are going to be moments, even lengthy times, when you feel defeated or think ‘what’s the use of this’ . . . you don’t quit. Vince Lombardi, the famous football coach said, “Winners Never Quit And Quitters Never Win.”
· Keep putting one foot in front of the other until you’re done. Learn from your failures and keep moving forward. Thomas Edison said, "Great success is built on failure, frustration, even catastrophe.”
· Believe, 100 percent, you can and will do this. Surround yourself with positive people and thoughts. Positive attitude is a must. Unless you really honestly and deeply believe, you’re in trouble.
· Give it all your energy, time, effort, sweat and tears.
· If you’ve set yourself a timeline and you don’t finish on that date—reexamine everything. Did you put all the energy needed into accomplishing it? Be really honest with yourself. If you did, then give yourself an extension of time. No matter how much we plan something, remember: there will always be a surprise! There can be a major hiccups that put a kink in our deadline. So, don’t be too hard on yourself, but always be honest, otherwise you’re just fooling yourself and will get nowhere.
Don’t forget the very wise words of Winston Churchill, “Success is going from failure to failure without the loss of enthusiasm.”
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The word for this week is INSPIRATION, which we all need. It comes in many forms—a painting, a smile, a novel, an encouraging word. It’s a feeling of enthusiasm you get from someone or something that gives life to an idea, a dream, a goal. But the best starting place for inspiration comes from within yourself—that flame of desire that ignites deep within you.
An interesting fact about inspiration: the root word inspire comes from the Latin word inspiratus: “To breathe into, inspire.” The English definition from the mid-16th century meant “the drawing of air into the lungs.” When you breathe in, you bring air into the lungs, inhaling life into your body. Inspiration is a flame that gives life to your mind, soul and creative process.
Your inspiration may start out as a small flame, but with determination, hard work and picking yourself up every time you fail, which by the way you never really fail, your flame will grow. Remember Thomas Edison who invented the light bulb? He said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” So, just keep that in mind every time you think you’ve failed.
Now, back to inspiration. It gives us ideas and awakens new/endless possibilities, and changes the way we perceive our own capabilities by giving us hope and encouragement. It expands our minds into believing, ‘I can do this!’ And you know what . . . you can! Inspiration is the flame that gives life to your dream, goals and desires.
Another beautiful thing about inspiration—YOU can be an inspiration to others no matter what stage of the game you’re in. Your desire to achieve, to be the best you can, will inspire others. One incredible example is Gandhi—he’s an inspiration for everyone. He was constantly trying to bring peace into the world, which is an on-going goal. He never gave up, even when he was imprisoned and tortured. Where did his inspiration come from when others were trying to silence him? A deep burning desire inside—that slow burning flame that breathed life into his aspirations.
So, look all around you. You will find inspirations everywhere, from a painting, a novel, a movie, a person’s smile or encouraging word. But the most important place you’ll find your inspiration is within yourself—that burning flame to achieve your dreams, desires, goals.
The word this week is Choice. It’s a simple word, but very powerful because the choices we make in life constantly affect us either in a good way or bad way. So, how do we make choices that will allow the outcome to be positive?
Look for the good. I know, you’ve heard that a thousand times, but it’s true! It’s like the old adage, “when life gives you lemons make lemonade.” Believe it or not, there are several ways we can do this.
First: accept it. It is what it is—crappy I admit, but true, and that simple.
Second: make the command decision not to let it control you. No matter what comes your way, it’s how you deal with it. Take control of it.
Third: decide to find the silver lining, no matter how small or insignificant it might be, find it. Think of it as a treasure hunt—somewhere out there is gold.
Fourth: let go of the bad. It happened, it’s there, it’s done, now let it go and move forward in a positive direction by reversing your mindset. I realize this isn’t simple; bottom-line it’s extremely hard to do, but it will be the best choice you ever made for yourself.
Fifth: never belittle your problems or compare them to others—everyone is different and every situation, no matter how small it seems, is important. Look at your situation and decide, “I’ve made the choice to take control and find the good.”
W. Clement Stone always looked for the good. By 1970, he became the wealthiest man in the United States and always said, “That’s good.” No matter what happened, he always looked for the good. So, make that your choice—look for the good.
The word this week is "Action"! Just think about this . . . all the thoughts you have, good intentions, ideas, are meaningless unless you put them in action! But seriously, how many of us think about our actions? Basically they're an automatic response we do throughout the day.
Let’s look at the word a little closer—where is this “action” or movement we are doing taking us? Is it moving us toward our goal(s) in life? Toward what we really want to accomplish? Or are we just doing automatic movements that get us through the day? Are we putzing or procrastinating?
For myself, I need to think more about the actions I take each day and ask, “Am I getting the most important things done that will help me accomplish my goal?” “Is this really a step or movement or process I want to take?”
I believe with the word action we need to follow up with, “What direction is this action taking me?”
Action means “the fact or process of doing something, typically to achieve an aim.” To accomplish what we desire in life we need to take actions that will move us toward our goal(s), improve the quality of our life and make us feel happy and satisfied. Because if it doesn’t, we’re wasting time — life is too precious and short.
So, as you move forward in your life, think about the “actions” you’re taking. Don’t let it be just an automatic response/movement; make it personal, determined and thought-out.
Fairy tales are beautiful, but they’re not real. Yet, one cannot help wonder . . . can I make my own fairy tale and have it be just as magical?
I’d like to think yes, I can Create My Own Fairy Tale.
For everyone out there, I don’t care what age you are, find what you love and follow it with all your heart. Don’t worry if it will work out or not, just follow your passion. There will be bumpy roads along the way. They even have them in fairy tales—everything seems to be going great and then bam, the ugly sisters or evil stepmom steps in and sets out to destroy the fantasy. Even fairy tales have bridges to cross or mountains to climb to get to the ‘Happily Ever After.’
So, get out your journal and start by first writing, “What is my passion?” Then let your dream unfold—you never know where it's going to take you, but if your true to your passion it will be incredible.
Here’s to your ‘Happily Ever After’ with or without the Prince or Princess!
"Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited, whereas imagination embraces the entire world, stimulating progress, giving birth to evolution." ~Albert Einstein
Here’s an idea. How about you take a day off from social media, the internet . . . even from your computer?
What, that’s crazy, you say! But it isn’t. I did this for the last two days.
I felt like the digital world was not only ruling my life, but stifling my imagination. I worked with a pad of paper, a pencil and a pen. I started to design a new journal, finding quotes by reading an actual book of quotes, did my finances without a calculator, and it was refreshing! And you know the best part? I felt relief. And my imagination blossomed!
So, here’s a challenge for you. Take a day off from the digital world. You’ll be surprised how your imagination can flourish. After you’ve taken a day off, send me a thumbs up.
My wish to You: Never Ever Give Up. No matter what Life throws your way, just look it square in the face and say, “I’m strong, I’m good, I’m worth it, and I’m not giving up so get out of my way.”
Here’s a fun story. After Star Wars came out, Harrison Ford appeared on the Johnny Carson show. Carson asked him, “What’s it like to be an overnight success?” Ford replied, “If you call 14 years an overnight success, it’s great!”
Here are a few examples of people who didn’t give up . . .
J.K. Rowling was a single mother while writing the first Harry Potter book. The book was rejected 12 times. One of the reasons many publishers rejected it was because they thought a 90,000 word book was too long. The Harry Potter books have now sold over 500 million.
In 1923, Walt Disney carried just $40 in his pocket when he left Kansas City for Hollywood. When he finally decided to create Disneyland, this is what he came up against: "I could never convince the financiers that Disneyland was feasible because dreams offer too little collateral."
The Beatles were rejected by Decca Records and it took four years of serious work and rejections by record labels before any fame came their way.
This is one of my favorites: Dr. Edith Eva Eger wrote her first book, The Choice: Embrace the Possible, in 2017. This is the part I love—it was published when she was 87 years old and became a New York Times Bestseller. Her second book, The Gift, came out this year when she turned 90.
So, NEVER EVER GIVE UP on your dreams or goals because they are worth pursuing!
Life is a mystery. But what you do leads you to where you want to go and then the mystery will slowly begin to unravel.
If you take a moment every day when it's most peaceful and quiet for you (I prefer early in the mornings because my mind hasn’t been cluttered by the day’s events), write down what you’re doing with your life, and I mean put down everything—relationships, work, family, friends, plans for the future—you’ll slowly start to see a pattern of where you really want to go or what you feel you need to work on.
Mind you, this might take a while; it just depends on how deep you want go. My advice, the deeper you explore the better. By doing this you’ll discover where you want to be in your life and what direction you want to take.
Remember, be brutally honest with yourself. This is Your Life!
"Journal therapy is all about using personal material as a way of documenting an experience, and learning more about yourself in the process," Kathleen Adams, a psychotherapist and author of Journal to the Self, told the Huffington Post. "It lets us say what's on our minds and helps us get — and stay — healthy through listening to our inner desires and needs."
I discovered that life works best when you live it the way you want and love, truly love, yourself. I have found that by writing down whatever is bugging me or on my mind, a pattern and/or solution(s) slowly starts to fall into place. The best part, I’m slowly unraveling the mystery of my life!
So, get out your journal and start writing. Click here to get one!
Never stop Dreaming, Believing, and Creating,